If You Have to Chase It, It’s Not Meant for You – The Truth About Self-Worth & Love
Why you’re settling, how to break free, and how to attract what’s truly meant for you.
Read this when you feel like you're always the one chasing.
Have you ever felt like love was a game of hide and seek? Like no matter how much you give, how much you prove yourself, or how much you pour into someone—they just don’t meet you halfway?
Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that if you just do more, love harder, or become "better," then they’ll finally see your worth. But love—real, soul-aligned love—doesn’t work like that.
Because here’s the truth: If you have to chase it, it was never meant for you.
The Pain of Chasing What Was Never Yours
Chasing someone—whether it’s love, validation, or acceptance—is like running on a treadmill. You’re exhausted, you’re doing all the work, and no matter how fast you go, you’re still in the same place.
It’s a painful cycle, and deep down, you already know this. You feel it every time they pull away. Every time they only give enough to keep you hooked but never enough to make you feel secure. Every time they make you question if you’re asking for too much when, in reality, you’re just asking for the bare minimum.
So why do we do it? Why do we chase?
Because at some point, we learned that love has to be earned. That we have to convince someone to choose us instead of realizing that the right love will never need convincing.
Stop Running – Here’s What You Need to Know
The love that’s meant for you will never make you beg for it. Your worth isn’t defined by who chooses you—it’s defined by how you choose yourself. When you stop chasing the wrong people, you make space for the right ones to find you.
If they wanted to be there, they would be. If they truly valued you, you wouldn’t have to question it. And if you have to keep proving that you’re worthy of love, it’s time to ask yourself: Is this love, or is this just another test of how much you’re willing to tolerate?
The Shift: From Chasing to Attracting
So what happens when you stop chasing? When you finally say, I am done running after people who don’t see my worth?
You create boundaries that protect your peace.
You attract people who genuinely value and appreciate you.You reclaim your power and realize that love should feel safe, secure, and reciprocated.
The moment you stop running is the moment you start rising.
Because the love that’s meant for you? It will recognize you when it sees you. It will meet you where you are. And it will never require you to lose yourself just to keep it.
Final Thought: Let It Go & Watch What Comes to You
If you have to chase it, it was never meant for you. The love that is yours will meet you where you are—not run away from you.
You are worthy of effort, consistency, and reciprocity. Anything less is beneath you.
Now ask yourself: Are you willing to let go of what’s not meant for you so that what is can finally arrive?
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