How to Stop Being an Option & Start Being the Prize (The Boundary Blueprint You Need)
How to shift from feeling undervalued in relationships to being deeply respected.
Read this when you feel like you’re always second choice.
Have you ever felt like you’re always the one waiting? Waiting for someone to text back, to show up, to give you the effort you deserve? Like no matter how much you give, they only give you just enough to keep you hanging on?
If so, it’s time for a wake-up call: You are not an option. You are the prize. And it’s time to start acting like it.
The Truth About Why You’re Being Treated Like an Option
Let’s be honest—people don’t treat you like an option by accident. They do it because you allow them to.
When you tolerate inconsistency, they learn they can come and go as they please.
When you accept last-minute plans, they don’t feel the need to prioritize you.
When you over-give, over-compromise, and under-demand, they never have to step up.
This isn’t about blaming yourself—it’s about reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, people who value you will never make you feel like you have to earn their effort.
The Boundary Blueprint: How to Shift from an Option to a Priority
Stop accepting breadcrumbs. If they can’t give you what you need, walk away.
Match their energy. If they’re inconsistent, stop overextending yourself.
Set clear standards. If they don’t meet them, they don’t get access to you.
Be willing to lose people. The wrong ones will leave, but the right ones will step up.
You don’t become a priority by waiting for someone to change—you become a priority by choosing yourself first.
The Shift: When You Finally See Yourself as the Prize
So what happens when you stop allowing yourself to be an option?
You stop feeling drained by one-sided relationships.
You attract people who meet your energy.
You realize that the love you want exists—you just had to stop settling first.
Final Thought: You Were Never Meant to Be an Option
Love should feel safe, secure, and reciprocated. If it doesn’t, it’s not for you.
When you raise your standards, you naturally filter out those who don’t belong.
You are not too much. You were just in the wrong place.
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